Fearless Like Phoebe
Backbends: The chest tightening, heart exposing, breath killing, family of yoga poses.
Have you ever seen a toddler run? Heart forward, head high, arms back but as people grow up and experience hurt, disappointment, etc. we pull our heart back. Most adults don’t run like a toddler. Well, apart from Phoebe of course ;)
Humans instinctively curl inward to protect the heart when we sense danger or feel threatened. Pause and look around wherever you are - people holding objects in front of their chest, rounded posture, heart pulled back, arms crossed, defense mode.
Backbends are often called “heart opening” poses because they reveal the physical heart and emotions that lie within. Having an open heart allows us to truly experience our life as we move through the world. Instead of being closed off, we can open to the possibility of new, unexpected things. But opening ourselves up to risk, failure and rejection is not easy and we often spend our days with our hearts sealed off and protected.
Vulnerability can make humans uncomfortable, fearful or anxious. In our society, vulnerability of any kind is often perceived to be negative. Human beings have an aversion to people being uncomfortable or vulnerable. When we show our weaknesses, it takes courage and strength. Vulnerability is showing up honestly and being seen. It offers others an opportunity to understand what you’re experiencing and gives people permission to be vulnerable too. Being present, listening and supporting someone is so valuable, yet we are so uncomfortable in discomfort.
Practicing backbends help us to take baby steps toward vulnerability and any risk invites a sense of vulnerability. At first, we may feel exposed. We may notice our physical body tensing up or our breath catching, becoming shallow or forced. But over time our body softens, our breath eases and we begin to feel more comfortable in the uncomfortable. Backbends can empower and encourage us to be courageous, compassionate and to have more empathy for ourselves and others.
Romina Sesto says it perfectly, “Mentally and emotionally, they invite courage and vulnerability, help us to face fears and remain calm in the face of difficult situations.”