Can we be a culture of Love Thy Selfie?


Be honest. Who hates Valentines Day?

If you’re not in a relationship, it can bring up feelings of loneliness and dread. If you are in a relationship, it can be disappointing or anticlimactic.

V-Day has the power to create depression and self-loathing in many people because of societal attachments to love and worth coming from another person. Society perpetuates the idea that if we don’t have a romantic partner in our life on February 14th, then we are worthless. This is an idea yoga looks to eradicate.

Society has become a “Look At Me/Watch Me” culture. More and more people are placing their value and self-worth on “likes” and “follows” on their social media. It’s mind blowing.

Many of us have become so busy creating an energy of being seen, noticed, and heard in the world, that we are attaching inappropriate value to our social media accounts. We compare our followers with other people’s followers. Seriously, are humans only worth-while and love-able if we are in a relationship and have a gazillion followers? Is that truly what will make a person love another person?

Social media has given us a culture of watching, but are we really seeing ourselves? And not through the eyes of social media, but through our hearts, souls, actions, words, and deeds. Aren’t these the things that warrant merit, the things others really love about us?

As yogis, we strive to practice awareness, acknowledgement, and non-attachment. It can be challenging to take that practice off the mat and into our lives. Yoga was, is and always will be about learning things on the mat to get better at living life off of it.

Likes and follows, by their very nature, are counter intuitive to the non-attachment of yoga. Are you posting for a result or to represent the work, self-expression, and the artistry itself?

This valentine’s day, let’s switch perspectives. Try cultivating value in yourself. Strive to see, hear, and notice yourself with merit and worth. And, finally, be more open-hearted and loving with the reflection in the mirror. Forget about a preplanned post for social media fame. Live for you, practice for you, and, if you post, post for you.